PTSD for caregivers: It’s a thing!
After three years together, two of which I was caregiver to Drew after his spinal stroke, we broke up. He moved out. While I was still his primary caregiver, I could no longer lay my eyes on his face every day, and so... View Post
When “for sicker or poorer” really happens to young couples
How Brian and Dorothy make their relationship – and parenting their four children – work with Brian caregiving after Dorothy’s stroke For sicker or poorer. The dedication and support in those wedding vows is one of the most important things about such... View Post
Tapping into what you can give as a caregiver
When I was caring for Drew, my childhood friend Megan Vela would send me cards in the mail. She brought home cooked meals to us in the hospital. She called often and listened. She kidnapped me for girls’ night and planned a... View Post
What comforts me during those God damn “why me?” moments
I started to see my therapist Jillian Lutz about a year ago to cope with the effects of being a caregiver to Drew, and to try and make the aching subside. She’s helping me heal more and more each day – teaching... View Post
Surviving the holidays after surviving stroke
It’s the start of winter in frigid, snowy Michigan and I’m halfway through the holidays. There’s so much pressure for perfection over the holidays. Pressure to adhere to that Norman Rockwell painting of the ideal American family that we all think we should... View Post
Calling Superman and Wonder Woman! 10 tips to better caregiving for young stroke survivors
My first instinct as a caregiver was to continuously research how to help the stroke survivor. I never thought to research “how to be a good caregiver.” I just did what came naturally. The problem is, caregiving for a young stroke survivor... View Post
Caregivers of spouses, partners after stroke: Our needs are different!
Caregivers of spouses and partners with strokes have different needs than people who care for family members and the elderly. Part of being committed at a young age is that whole, “I’ll take care of you in sickness and in health” thing.... View Post